by now you probably know i’m mormon. if you didn’t, well, cat’s outta the bag: i’m mormon. i haven’t written extensively about this for quite some time, and i figure now’s a good a time as any. i feel like every time i tell someone i’m mormon they get this look on their faces, like a “but you don’t act like you’re in a cult!” look. and it’s entirely possible i’m just being sensitive, but…oh well.
so listen, i understand that being religious might seem antiquated and even naive in this day and age. but thanks to my control issues and tendency to live inside my head, i’ve actually done a lot of thinking about this, and i have reasons for my choices.
here’s the thing: if i didn’t want to be mormon, i could do that. i’ve kind of done that. it’s an actual choice that i make, day by day, hour by hour. it’s not an easy life, to be sure, but i don’t know that life was designed to be easy.
a lot of the problems that people seem to have with my religious beliefs stem from a dearth of knowledge. and the funny thing is, there is so much information out there about the lds church–true information that hasn’t been spread by the general public, which seems hellbent on making all mormons out to be polygamous zealots.
if you don’t want to go looking for the information, that might be all right–chances are you know a bunch of mormons already, even if only online. most if not all of those mormons will be totally fine with you asking as many questions as you want. we’re nothing if not eager to convert the masses so we can have more people to work as cashiers at the grocery stores on our compounds.
kidding. totally kidding.
anyway, i get variations of the same questions from people all the time. here they are, with my answers:
how can you belong to a church that degrades women? i don’t. the mormon church respects women like you don’t even know.
don’t you mind that your husband might want another wife someday? yeah, that would probably bug me, but mormons don’t practice polygamy. haven’t since 1890.
why do mormons hate gay people? i can’t speak for all mormons, of course, but as for myself, i love gay people. and my church doesn’t advocate hating anyone, period. those who do hate gay people are stupid.
why so prude-a-licious? errr, have you read my blog? i’m not a prude, and neither are any of my lds friends. we enjoy a healthy romp just like any other woman, we are just counseled to abstain before marriage and only have sex with our spouses. if you can’t wrap your mind around the whole abstaining for religious purposes thing, just think of it as us being highly dedicated to preventing the spread of STDs.
there are a lot of other questions, but i’m tired and my brain stopped working about three hours ago. but this has been on my mind a lot lately, so i knew it was time to write about it. like i said, i know it might seem strange to some people that i follow a faith that so directly opposes what the world says is good or worthwhile. but the one thing i need to emphasize is that i don’t judge anyone who lives differently from me. i understand that mormonism isn’t a road that everyone wants to travel, and that’s ok.
i think my desire here is to point out that not all religious people blindly follow wherever their leaders lead, despite the way the media and hollywood portrays us. it’s possible to be educated and faithful. for the record, i’m not saying i have it all figured out–there are some things about mormonism that i don’t necessarily understand. but i relish the simple beauty of being able to believe without understanding. and i do believe.
*if you have any questions for me, feel free to ask in your comments. or email me if you don’t feel comfortable asking in a public forum. i’ll respond honestly to every one.*