i’m not sure how many of you keep up with ncaa men’s basketball, but there’s a good chance you may have heard something about a byu player, brandon davies, being suspended from the basketball team this past week due to a violation of byu’s honor code. the story has been all over the news–local, national, and international–mostly due to byu’s no. 3 ranking, as well as the fact that the team is built around the nation’s leading scorer, jimmer fredette. but since the story broke this last tuesday, a lot of other elements of the suspension have come into play, and pretty much all of them are being completely twisted by the media, by bloggers, and even by people within the lds community who should, in my opinion, just know better.
there are a few things that i’m really irritated about, and i’m not trying to change anyone’s mind here or place blame anywhere, i mostly just needed to express my annoyance with the ignorance of people in general. if you don’t mind, i’ll just go down the list of what’s getting on my nerves when i read a news item or hear people talking about the incident.
first: many who know nothing of byu other than its sports programs seem to feel totally comfortable offering their two cents about why they think byu is a soul-sucking, cult-driven institution whose main goal is to brainwash its students and hold back its athletes. these people seem to think that the honor code office somehow relishes the act of preventing young men and women from fulfilling their goals and being as successful as they can possibly be. when i read these types of comments on news stories or blog posts, it’s all i can do to stop myself from being a total troll and unleashing the full fury of my very colorful vocabulary on these morons.
byu students violate the honor code every day, of this i’m sure. but no one knows about it. why? because it’s most often handled in private, with only the student and his or her religious leader involved. in other words, most people seek help BEFORE they are caught doing something wrong, which is unfortunately often not the case with athletes, who for whatever reason may choose to believe they will never be caught. some say that these athletes think they are above the law, or that they have too much to lose if they were to come forward with an admission of wrongdoing; whatever the case may be, if any byu student chooses to wait until the honor code office gets involved, chances are the disciplinary action taken will be more severe than if they had been working through the issue with their bishop or other religious leader.
i understand that a lot of people think that the school’s honor code is too strict. that’s fine, think that if you’d like. the level of its strictness is really a non-issue in this case. every student, including brandon davies, knows what they are committing to when they enter byu. signing the honor code is a part of the application process, so it’s not as though it’s a big secret. as far as i could see from what’s being covered in the media, brandon davies has been nothing but gracious and humble in accepting whatever action may be taken by the school, and i’m sure a big part of that is that he knew what the risks of his behavior were. he made a choice, and now he’s facing the consequences. i don’t see how any of that could possible construed as unfair or unnecessary. if anything, it’s a model for what SHOULD be happening in the real world.
second: other people have played the whole race card, saying that only minority students who violate the honor code are exposed to the media. this type of talk disgusts me more than anything else, i think. brandon davies came forward about his indiscretion during one of the biggest weeks of the basketball season, when his team was in contention to be part of the final 4, and he’s one of the team’s star players. it’s not like byu called the paper and said, “hey, we’ve got a student here who’s getting kicked off the basketball team–would you like an exclusive?” no. from what i understand, someone in davies’ circle tipped off a news outlet about the whole thing, and the circumstances propelled the story to the top of the news. it was an issue of timing, not race.
and in any case, it sickens me that members of the lds church would even suggest that this has anything to do with the color of davies’ skin. no one can know what really happened unless brandon were to say it himself. same goes for other athletes (or any byu student) who are disciplined by the honor code office. i’ve heard several people drop hints about other athletes who may be breaking the honor code and are not being punished, and i think that’s incredibly disappointing. for one thing, we don’t know for sure what anyone is doing behind closed doors, and for another thing, we don’t know how those people are handling their specific situations. it’s completely destructive, irresponsible, and ignorant to even attempt to compare the situation of brandon davies with anyone else’s. each case is different, and therefore requires different treatment. it’s very unfortunate that brandon is being scrutinized in this manner, but the truth of the matter is that he’s a high-profile athlete in the midst of the best season in school history. however, it’s unfair to insinuate that the byu administration wanted anything to do with this media circus. that happened all on its own.
third: i’ve seen many, many comments bashing byu for its stance on premarital sex, which is allegedly what davies is being disciplined for. everyone and their mother seems to think that byu is unrealistic and oppressive for demanding sexual purity from its students. on top of that, people accuse the school of hypocrisy, saying that there are probably a lot of people committing this act, so it’s not fair to punish one student, especially when it could jeopardize his career. again, this comes down to common sense. whether or not you agree with the fact that sex before marriage is wrong, abstinence is what’s required by the school’s honor code, and everyone who attends the school knows this.
i’m sure that there are plenty of people at byu having premarital sex who don’t get caught, but there’s really nothing that can be done about that. if a student chooses not to come forward and isn’t informed on by someone else, chances are they’ll be able to finish their education at byu without ever being in danger of discipline. the enforcement of the honor code is mostly enabled by the students themselves, who are given the responsibility of managing their own decisions and dealing with whatever fallout may come. i don’t see this as hypocritical or unfair, i see it as an incredible opportunity to prepare for life beyond college. yes, davies’ career track might change, and yes, byu’s basketball team may not make it to the final four. it sucks, but the reality is that our choices have weight, they have meaning for us and for those we live and work with. no man is an island, and davies is finding this out the hard way. i say good on him, and good on byu. go cougs.
that is my vent for the day, and if you are still with me, i thank you for listening.
— Alexis
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I’m with you. And thank you for posting this. I haven’t looked into all the hoopla surrounding Davies, but I think you’ve nailed it!
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I haven’t really been keeping up with it, but that’s mostly because I don’t do basketball. It’s too squeaky for me…but that’s beside the point. It sounds like a lot of people are making a much bigger, nastier deal of this than it really is, and that’s a shame. But I suppose people love conflict….
On a marginally unrelated note, I read somewhere (can’t recall where) the other day that drinking coffee violates the honor code at BYU. Is that true? And if it is, why is that? Just curious!
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that’s true–drinking coffee does violate the honor code. my friend lindsay posted a link here in the comments that explains the reasons why in depth. the shorthand version? the lds church has a set of guidelines called the word of wisdom, which advises against drinking coffee (among other things), taking drugs recreationally (prescription is fine), and promotes everything in moderation for the health of the body.
a lot of people don’t understand this particular precept of the lds church, so this has actually been one of the topics of discussion about davies–some people sarcastically commented that he might have been kicked off the team for drinking coffee. although it would be a violation of the honor code, it wouldn’t be grounds for suspension.
dude. still with you.
agreed. 100%.
@Lisa: This might answer your question: http://mormon.org/commandments/#obey-the-word-of-wisdom
First of all, i miss you…
Everything about this evolves around ethics and integrity. It may sound as simple as pre-marital sex to some, but it was a violation of the code, and he knew that. He is an adult and is free to make choices, but this code among other rules is for guidance and to teach ethics to this young and impressionable people.
Blah blah blah, a rule is a rule..and it is simple as that. He knew better, and really there is nothing to debate.
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i’m so glad you get it. it’s because you’re supposed to be mormon. you know this, right?
I love hearing your responses to things in the media, church and even politics. You have such an awesome way of politely and poetically writing the words that so randomly float around in my head.
Curious…how’d he get caught?
I’m glad to read your insider perspective on this story. My husband, a UCONN grad, follows the NCAA religiously (pun intended) so its been discussed here. My feeling is that if he signed a piece of paper promising he’d abstain from sex, not drink, not smoke, live honestly…heck, if he signed a paper saying he’d eat poop for a week. Whatever. He should do it. Because he said he’d do it.
Is there even the littlest chance he didn’t know the possible repercussions? Are the athletes at BYU (like at other big sports schools) sheltered from all things non-athletic and made to feel invincible?
Thanks for the piece. And congrats on getting into school!
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lol @ eat poop. heh.
as for how brandon got caught, it’s said in the media that he was approached by the honor code office after a story appeared in a newspaper about davies’ relationship with his girlfriend. the story reported that the girl was pregnant, which hasn’t been confirmed to be true. apparently, a relative of the girl (who isn’t a byu student) tipped the paper off for who knows what reason.
that’s how the story’s being told right now, but really, i have no idea how he was caught. there aren’t that many ways he could have been found out: either someone told on him, or he reported himself to the honor code office. byu doesn’t comment on the specific nature of students’ infractions, nor on how the disciplinary action came about, so it’s all speculation, as far as i’m concerned.
as for the other thing, i don’t think there’s any chance he didn’t know what might happen if he were caught. the honor code is a huge part of life at byu, and the guidelines are straightforward. the punishments do vary based on different circumstances, but there’s no question of what’s allowed and not allowed.
when it comes to athletes, things get a little complicated, especially in the case of high-profile athletes like brandon. i’m no expert on athletic programs at other schools, but it does seem as though students who play sports are treated differently than students who don’t. at byu, athletes are still treated differently, but i wouldn’t say it’s the same as at other schools. there is still the element of fan worship and so on, but the mission of byu is imbedded into the sports culture, and so the mission of the athletic teams is different than at other schools.
the athletes at the school are seen as representatives of the school, and by extension, the church. even if they are not lds, these students are expected to live by church standards while they attend byu. as we’ve seen very clearly this week, when a student doesn’t act in accordance with the honor code and it makes it into the media, the school and the church are put under a microscope.
i’d say the athletes at byu are held to a much higher standard than those at other schools, both academically and personally. this system seems to work, if you ask me. and if there are flaws in the system, it’s due to the fallible nature of humans–for example, a coach who can’t stomach the loss of his star player might cover up an honor code violation–not to a shortcoming in the system. i think what’s going on with brandon davies is an example of the honor code at its best, and everyone involved, from davies himself to his coaches and teammates, are handling the situation beautifully.
I am devoutly NON religious so I absolutely do not understand BYU, lds, the honor code, etc etc.
But, that is beside the point. It is there. He knew it. He DID sign up for it. He DID believe in these values & agreed to the behavior standards up front. So – yeah, he needed to be disciplined. And I agree that everyone is handling themselves very well.
Of course, being from San Diego (Go Aztecs!), I’m a little miffed this didn’t come out a few days earlier
) I’m KIDDING!
i was thinking of your comment this weekend when i watched byu get slaughtered by sdsu. i guess all’s well that ends well, right? for the aztecs, i mean.
LOL! Yes, It did all work out
Amazing though how one player – and that one player NOT being the much ballyhooed Jimmer – impacts the overall performance of a team.
well-said.
i really liked what was said on espn about this situation–that they give props to byu for standing by their honor code when they could’ve easily turned a blind eye to it to keep their nationally ranked bball team in the game. i’m glad that SOMEONE respects what byu stands for.
Alexis,
Spot on, dear, spot on. Thankfully, being out of happy valley, we get the national news. Interestingly enough, all the national press that I’ve read has supported BYU’s decision and commended the school for valuing principles and morals over a national title.
Based on the news I’ve read, Brandon actually came forward and admitted his violation after learning his girlfriend was pregnant. I have to give that kid major credit. not an easy thing to do in the first place, but with the season shaping up the way it has, even a harder thing to do.
It’s not a new thing to have the world not understand why we do what we do. Call it unrealistic, call it old-fashioned, call it antiquated. This is who we are and I’m grateful BYU and Brandon didn’t back down. By the way, for all those idiots saying BYU has thrown Brandon Davies to the wolves and cast him out, tell them to go watch the Wyoming game and see Brandon sitting on the bench, surrounded by teammates and taking his turn cutting down the net after the final home game.
I’ve had lots of frustration with the misinformation and misunderstanding as well. And I have so much pity for Davies and his girlfriend. Something that most people would be able to handle privately with their bishop is now an international story. So far, he has handled it beautifully.
Danny Ainge did a fabulous interview on a Boston radio show explaining the situation. I suggest anyone who didn’t go to BYU and wants to understand should listen to it: http://audio.weei.com/a/37354448/danny-ainge-on-byu-s-brandon-davies-and-the-celtics.htm
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Regardless of my opinions on religon, morals, and college sports for that matter, I didn’t agree to live by the honor code, he did. Seeing as he is in college I will assume he is over the age of 18 and therefore an adult, and should be held to his word. I do hope he recieves help during what is undoubtedly a very difficult time in his life.
as far as i’ve seen, he’s receiving a lot of help. his teammates and coaches have rallied around him, not to mention byu fans. i think he’ll get through this just fine, no matter what the end result of it is.
FANTASTICALLY written! You are so fabulously able to write what most of us think, but struggle to articulate.
It’s a sad situation for sure, but one that he brought on himself. He KNEW what he was getting into. Sucks that we’re human and made mistakes.
But good for BYU for standing strong to their values and expectations.
I don’t really have much to add to the conversation, but I wanted to thank you for posting your thoughts on Davies’ suspension. Although I don’t think I’d fit in all that well at BYU (being a Jewish caffeine addict), I certainly respect that there is a code of conduct agreed upon by students who wish to be part of the student community — and, as they do in many other private institutions, these issues are usually dealt with quietly.
I’m co-hosting a podcast with a friend of mine from the blogosphere. She’s Muslim; I’m Jewish. And we take a look at issues affecting society at large from our viewpoints. It’s very likely that we’ll be addressing this story on our next episode — which is why I searched for different opinions concerning this decision.
Kudos on a well-written piece (and a great blog in general)…
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thanks for reading, and for the comment. i always love hearing the perspectives of people from different religious communities, and i think it’s awesome that you’re doing that kind of work in the blogosphere. it’s sad that in this day there still exists such a great deal of religion intolerance, but it’s definitely a huge presence in our society.
and i think you’d fit in fine at byu–you’d definitely be in the minority, but that’s not always a bad thing.
I actually read a lot of secular articles that applauded BYU for following their rules by dismissing Davies. They totally knew how hard of a decision this was for BYU because they could be in the top 4 right now & instead? They aren’t.
I think if a school expects certain standards for their students then I’m going to tell them bravo when they uphold them, especially when it’s hard! And this was a hard call for BYU to make. I think it’s impressive they made it.
Good Post!